Baby, don't hurt me. Don't hurt me. No more...
Isn't love strange! It's just a brilliant relationship, right? i.e. a great friendship? i.e. a friendship? It's true, I suppose, that I love all of my great friends.
I once heard a recording of Michael Jackson on the phone to his voice coach. At the end of the conversation they both told eachother "I love you".
Ok, so this isn't the kind of love that I want to focus on here. I want to talk about being "in love". But isn't being "in love" just the same as regular love plus sex? Actually, some people in love might not even have sex, so I suppose only a sexual attraction is required.
I once heard a male porn star being interviewed and he said that he doesn't want a girlfriend, just friends that are girls, because his sexual desires are fulfilled by his job.
So what? To be in love with someone I just need to be sexually attracted to a good friend? But "good" is such a fuzzy word, so would just a regular friendship be valid? What the hell, I'll be friends with pretty much any friendly stranger I meet, some of which I find sexually attractive. Does that make me in love? What am I missing here?
When people crave love, what do they really crave? Assuming they have friends, they already have love! So why doesn't that terrible yearning feeling go away? I don't know. Perhaps they believe love will be so much more than it actually is. Perhaps they just want another friend.
I once heard someone say "you must learn to be happy on your own before you can ever be happy with a partner".
Obviously, I have over simplified love here. There's much more. I can obsess about people I am not friends with or strongly sexually attracted to. So why? What is that secret ingredient? What is love?
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